Our Problem Our Son
Sunday, 5 November 2006
Posted by Sedna in Fiction.
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* I think I owe Tinkerbell (and all my readers) a post…
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I shuffled into the kitchen, squinting and pulling my hair up in a tight pony tail. He was seated in his chair, staring vacantly at the smooth wooden table.
“Darling,” I planted a kiss on his right cheek. He didn’t respond. So I simply reached for the cupboard where his favorite bowl was. Then I paused. “Frosties?” Yawn. “Honey, you want Frosties right? Or should I make you an omelet today? You can eat with Daddy…”
I tried to read his body language, but he didn’t move. He just inspected the table. Well, that in itself was a sign. That’s what Michelle told us. She said that everything Talal did – or did not do – was a sign. It was as though he communicated with us in code. His father and I were learning to crack this code …not because we wanted to, but because we had to.
I put the blue bowl in front of him, filled it with cereal and was just about to open a bottle of milk when I heard Mohammed walk in. I foolishly looked up with a big smile and froze.
“He’s old enough to fix his own breakfast.”
Stay cool. Go with the flow. I closed the fridge and held the bottle out to my son.“Why don’t you pour the milk on your cereal? Talal? Honey, take the bottle and…”
“STOP TALKING TO HIM LIKE THAT.”
His voice was so loud, the outburst so sudden, that I actually jumped and dropped the bottle. There was a white puddle on the floor and I automatically bent down to pick the larger pieces of glass.
I was slowly learning to accept these outbursts. He stood there, in the doorway, clenching and unclenching his fists, opening his mouth and saying nothing. But the sparks of fury were no longer flying from his eyes.
I watched him fight with himself. Every day was a battle for Mohammed. I wanted to hug him and tell him not to worry. That I will always be there and we’ll make it through. The three of us, together. But I didn’t want to step on his pride. Talal did that already. Unknowingly, he trampled all over his father’s pride.
Tap tap tap
Talal was still staring blankly at the table. But in his left hand he held a metal spoon. And he tapped. Slowly and rhythmically. Tap tap tap tap tap.
“Talal, I’m going to get you another bottle of milk,” tap tap tap tap, “and you’ll have your breakfast.” Tap tap tap. “Then we,” tap tap, “must,” tap, “hurry,” tap tap, “if you want to go,” tap tap tap, “to the beach.” Tap tap.
It took all my strength not to snap at him. I wanted to wrench the spoon from his hand and fling it out the window. I wanted to slap him and tell him to grow up. Or shake him by the shoulders until he cried. I was sick and tired of this. Why? Why couldn’t he be normal?
Mohammed was watching the scene and it made me nervous. I hate it when he simply stands there. Waiting for me to do something, and the moment I do, he snaps. If I do nothing, he still snaps. Why can’t he try to help instead of just criticizing?
I poured milk over his cereal, tap tap tap, started mopping up the mess on the floor, tap tap tap, filled the electric kettle with water, tap tap, took out two mugs…And he was still tapping. Insistently and at the same pace. Sensory spin-out, Dr. Michelle called it. And Mohammed was still watching. I felt torn between my son and my husband. I hated them both. It felt like I had to deal with two autistic children instead of one. Two children that I loved to death. Tap tap tap tap tap. It grated on my nerves. Tap tap. I wanted him to stop. I waited for the water to boil and for my husband to do something. Tap tap tap. Make him stop. Now.
“Talal. Enough.”
Tap tap tap
Mohammed mumbled something before he walked away. It sounded strongly like “fuck you”. Me? Did he mean me? Or did he mean his son? I didn’t know which was worse. Or did he mean both of us? Or did he curse fate? Life?
What? I wanted to scream. What did you say? I don’t think I heard you.
Nightmares Tuesday, 25 July 2006
Posted by Sedna in Fiction, Rant, War.23 comments
Mohammed woke up with a start. His heart was beating wildly and a cold sweat covered his forehead and back. He pushed the covers away with his right hand and sat up trying to breathe slowly. It was a matter of seconds before he realized what had disturbed his sleep. The nightmares rendered the tranquilizers and sedatives quite useless. His body refused to cooperate with the drugs flowing through his system – the stronger the doses, the less sleep the thirteen year-old got.The recurring nightmare was not really a nightmare, in the sense that it was not a figment of his imagination. It was simply the worst scenes he had ever seen, mismashed together in the most horrific way by his over-worked brain and replayed in slow motion. The “nightmares” caught him off-guard. Sometimes, one of the nurses would be trying to feed him…and Mohammed would suddenly see his mother wander through the door. Her face twisted in agony, clutching his three year-old sister close to her body. Sometimes he would hear his father talking just down the hall and Mohammed would call out to him…He would call out in vain.
The first crash was loud and it woke him up. The whole house shook and the window nearest his bed shattered. Mohammed screamed. And screamed and screamed. His baby sister cried. His mother was begging God to spare her children. Abu Mohammed ran into his son’s room and urged him to get out. Mohammed stumbled in the dark. He made it to the street and all around him children cried, women wailed. The noise was unbelievable and the air was clammy. They said someone had died. That’s why there was blood everywhere. A neighbor took his hand and led him to a house down the road. Mohammed never saw his family again…Days later he was transferred to a hospital far from his town. He knew nobody save for the little boy in the bed across from him. The little boy who lost his voice forever. The fright and the shock left him speechless. Imad’s family did not survive the brutal Israeli attack either. He lost his parents and four siblings. The two boys were survivors – though Mohammed did not want to be a survivor. He often wished he was with his parents and Laila. Wherever they were…He never stopped thinking about his house, his room, his friends, the days spent at the river. He remembered how his sister laughed when he got on all fours and bounded around the room barking at her playfully, pretending to bite her chubby legs. He remembered his father’s smell, his mother’s voice…he remembered everything. But every time his eyes drifted to his elbow, Mohammed would frown in confusion. He could not remember what happened to the rest of his arm, or why his elbow ended in a bloody stump…
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“Please join us in front of the Lebanese Embassy on Monday July 24, 2006. We would like to give our condolences and support to the Lebanese people in the form of an orderly, silent gathering by holding candles and laying flowers”
Did anyone else get that text message? I’m not sure the ceremony took place, and I don’t want to ridicule those who attended. That was a sweet gesture – but is it really what Lebanon needs right now? How many lives did you save by laying flowers? Are those candles you lit going to stop the missiles from raining on Lebanon? By standing there that night did you manage to comfort a crying child, recently orphaned? Did your ‘orderly gathering’ feed a hungry family whose possessions and provisions were destroyed by the ruthless enemy?
Yes, you have showed compassion and sympathy. Well done. But think about it. Lebanon – and its people – need more than that. You could have spent that time at home in prayer. You don’t pray? Fine then, donate. Donate whatever you can – blankets, canned foods, clothes, money – to the Lebanese Embassy. You can help and you can make a difference. The question is how…
إنا لله و إنا اليه راجعون Sunday, 15 January 2006
Posted by Sedna in Uncategorized.9 comments
